Life Among the Living

I watch a lot of Lifetime TV for Women.

Don't judge me.

I like to watch the syndicated sitcoms while I'm folding clothes, cleaning up, and eating bon bons.

Lately, Lifetime has been hyping their returning show Lisa Williams: Life Among the Dead. Lisa is a medium who talks to the dead. I've never seen the show and I really don't want to.

I don't believe much in the supernatural. But even if the ability to talk to the dead was a scientific fact, I'm still not sure I'd ever want to visit with a medium.

Here's the thing. Relationships are living, breathing, evolving things. In the course of life with someone you love you may say thousands, or even millions of things to them. Some of them you may want to take back. But because each person in the relationship, and the relationship itself is forever growing, words can come to mean different things between you.

Then that person you love is dead. Gone. I can understand the attraction of wanting to talk to them one more time. I really can. But to converse with your loved one through another would mean that those words, their meanings and emotions, would forever be fixed in time. I know that I would not want my last words with the person I love to be filtered through another.

Unless my loved one has hidden a fortune in the floorboards, I'd rather our relationship, our love, our connection and my memories stand on their own.

I guess we all need to remember to live in the moment, loving as hard and as well as we can so that when we've lost someone, we know we've already said everything we ever could.